Happy Mother’s Day! This holiday has become a day that means more to me than most holidays, birthdays or really any other kind of event or celebration. This year, however, means even more than in preceding years, because I not only celebrate my own mom, who I love so very deeply and unconditionally, but also, my sister and best friend, who celebrates her first Mother’s Day, today. It’s truly challenging for me to place into words the way I feel about both my mom and sister. They are my closest confidantes, the ones I can turn to without having to contemplate a single thought, because I can truly be who I am around them. Throughout my entire life, they have loved me unconditionally, seen my at my best and at my worst, but always treated me like me, and nothing less.
Both my mom and sister inspire me every day and show me what it means to love, what it means to be strong and resilient. They also have shown me how important it is to keep moving forward, no matter what obstacles life may throw at us. They approach each situation with grace and poise. They’ve held my hand and wiped my tears through many trying situations and events we’ve weathered through and believed and trusted in me even when I didn’t believe or trust myself.
Last August, my sister gave me the greatest gift of all – the title of an Aunt, to my niece, who I love with a deeper sentiment than I ever believed possible. When I hold my niece, I feel such joy and calm, knowing she is my sister’s daughter, I see such beauty, grace and intelligence. She is not only my niece, but my friend.
The other day, as I perused through Facebook, a piece of writing about mothers filled by newsfeed, posted by one of my favorite magazines, Redbook. I thought I would share it with whomever may be reading this today, believing that perhaps you might be as inspired by it as I was. Reading through most of it, it resonated with me, and I felt a deep sense of understanding and was taken by how very true it is.
(Found via Redbook’s Facebook Page):
1. She knew and accepted you at every phase, even the awkward ones.
There aren’t many people there for us during both our temper tantrum years and the months we wore shiny silver braces.
2. Even when you didn’t want her there, she still stuck around.
Remember when you slammed the door in her face as an angst-ridden teen? She probably lingered on the other side for a bit.
3. And held your hand every step of the way, especially when you were lost.
Whether forcing you to go about your routine or sending you some inspiration through the phone or Internet, she continues to guide you.
4. She put your happiness above her own.
She helped you solve your problems, even when it meant missing her favorite television show or a night out with girlfriends.
5. She continued to support you even when many people left.
Friends come and go, but no situation can keep a mom from making her daughter’s life brighter.
6. She never failed to be honest.
She’d pick out the negative that many failed to acknowledge (that boyfriend really wasn’t worth your time) and most of the time, her perception ended up being scarily accurate.
7. And worry about your well-being when others steered you wrong.
The thing with a mom is she doesn’t care what’s popular or cool, but rather how best to protect you.
8. She isn’t likely to cancel on plans and leave you hanging.
Being with you is always going to be her first choice.
9. She’ll yell in your face before talking behind your back.
Her words may sound harsh, but at least she tells it like it is, unlike the many “friends” you’ve had who’ve told one of your secrets, spread a rumor or lied to you.
10. Your relationship goes beyond catty fights.
Since you’re at different places in your life, you’re not likely to be in competition for anything. And even the most intense fight could usually be worked out because, hey, it’s not like you can unfriend or divorce your mother.
11. She’ll hate the same people you hate.
We can’t deny that there have been moments when Mom acted like a vengeful teenager. It’s just that your mother isn’t only your cheerleader but also your bodyguard.
12. Because at the end of the day, blood is thicker than water.
Your first love may not be your soulmate after all. Your best friend forever may be your best friend until it’s less convenient. No matter how extreme your differences may be, family members seem to possess the gift of forgiveness. If you and your mom grow apart believe that you will eventually patch up whatever it is that soiled things. After all, she’s one of the only people who knows you better than yourself and has your best interest at heart 100% of the time.
Thank you to Redbook for providing me with a much-needed perspective and for allowing me to reflect on all the wonderful characteristics and comradeship my mom and I share. It is not only my mom who shares in these aforementioned truths, but also my sister. Together, they are the two best people within my life, who provide me with strength and inspiration, each and every day. I love them from the bottom of my heart and hope they have the most wonderful day today, filled with all the love and happiness life truly has to offer!